The definition of “Mother” as a noun: A female parent. The definition of “Mother” as a verb: nurturing, protecting, giving, caring, hoping, hugging, encouraging, believing, listening, learning, teaching, trusting, forgiving, accepting, loving, loving, loving. I am the definition of “mother” as a noun, a female parent. My desire is to have been and continue to be the definition of “mother” as a verb.
Mother’s Day in the United States is annually held on the second Sunday of May. This year, 2018, it is May 13. It celebrates motherhood and it is a time to appreciate mothers and mother figures. Many people give gifts, cards, flowers, candy, a meal in a restaurant or other treats to their mother and mother figures, including grandmothers. It was created by Anna Jarvis in 1908 and became an official US holiday in 1914 by President Woodrow Wilson. (Google Search) As we look to celebrate Mother’s Day 2018, I want to share some things I have learned about being a mother.
I Have Learned
I have learned that being a mother is one of the most exhausting, time consuming, nerve wracking, heart breaking, sleep depriving, never ending, most rewarding, most joyful, would – not – trade – it – for – anything jobs in the world. From the first quickening of the baby in the womb, life is changed forever.
Hearts are Joined
I have learned that at birth, even though the cord is cut and the baby is freed from the mother’s body, the child is never cut from the mother’s heart. My babies are ages 56 and 52, and our hearts are still joined. My heart still skips a beat when my phone rings and I see their names as the callers or the text beeps with a message from them. Our hearts are joined.
Rejoicing and Weeping
I have learned that when our children are sad and hurt, I am sad and hurt. When they are happy and excited, I am happy and excited. When they are struggling, I struggle. When they are content, I am content. When they rejoice, I rejoice with them. When they weep, I weep with them. “Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep” (Romans 12:15).
I have learned that God does not expect me to be a perfect mom, but He does expect me to be a godly mom. Mistakes my mother made I was determined not to make myself. I have made my own set of mistakes. I am sure our daughter will not emulate my mistakes. She will make her own. Even though I have tried to do my best as a mom and have followed the Scriptures as I understood them, our children still have the right to choose their own way. Many children can say, “My mom raised me right—I did wrong on my own.” Others can say, “My mom did not raise me right, I did right on my own.”
Never Give Up
I have learned to never give up. During a time when Isaiah Thomas (famous basketball player) continued to struggle with life, his mother said, “I give up.” He responded, “No, mothers can’t give up.” I agree. If mothers give up, there is not much hope for that child. I received a message from a dear friend today. She said, “My heart is full and happy today with praise for our Gracious God. This mother has cried out to Him so many, many times for her children. In His time and in His wisdom he has answered her prayers.” Here is an example of a mother who would not give up. Someone has said, “God can use our deepest disappointments to nurture our faith in Him—if we don’t give up.”
I have learned that God is love. Although I do not always please Him or do what is right, He loves me. He loves me because I am His. I am His child. He loves unconditionally. That is the way I as a mother should love. I have heard mothers quote, III John 4, relating it to their children, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.” Truly it is a great joy when children live right and follow Bible principles, but if not, what? Love them unconditionally as God loves us. Recently, we watched the funeral service of the famous Dr. Billy Graham. Each of his children had a part in the service. One daughter, who had not lived as she should and had gone against her parents’ advice and wishes, told about going home feeling utter defeat. She was anxious and fearful about seeing her father. When she neared the home, she saw him standing on the porch waiting for her. He met her with a strong embrace and unconditional love, just like our Heavenly Father. I have learned to love unconditionally.
I have learned that the greatest gift we can give our children is prayer and an utter dependence on El Shaddai, Almighty God. He is in control and we can trust Him (Proverbs 3:5). This is a scary time to be a parent. I received this message this week from a mother, “Please pray for my kids today. I am so burdened for my child but I know God loves her more than me.” This is the message of many, many mothers. God is on our side and He cares. This should be added to the verb definition of mother, praying, praying, praying. Mothers, yes, prayer is the greatest gift for our children.
Happy Mother’s Day
I have learned, with few exceptions, your mother is the one person in all the world who loves you the most. Honor her all the days of your life. “Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise” (Ephesians 6:2). You will be glad you did.
This is written because I care – Carlene